Sadness that he had to hide this part of himself. Sadness that in 2024, people still lose jobs, housing, and family over consensual adult work. Sadness that he’d been carrying the weight of stigma alone.
Being the partner of a sex worker requires a strong sense of self. You cannot derive your entire self-worth from being his "only" physical focus. Cultivating your own hobbies, career goals, and support system is the best way to ensure the relationship stays balanced. The Bottom Line
: Understand that while sex is "work" for him with clients, it is "desire" with you. Just as a chef may not want to cook after a long shift, a sex worker’s personal libido may fluctuate; this is a physical response to labor, not a reflection of his attraction to you. Combatting "Whorephobia"